Empowered But Not Equipped

seminar believer
Caught up in the hype of the moment

Seminars – Workshops – Training Events – Gatherings – Summits…they go by different names but they all feel relatively the same.  My experience is that they do a great job of pumping us up, blowing tons of sunshine, convincing us that we CAN do ‘it’, and bringing us right to the edge of the cliff.  We join in the group chant, “I am a success” and we take one giant leap of faith – but just before we step off – the gurus walk away.  They have our money, they have our faith, they taught us ‘stuff’ and their job is done.  Now we get to fly solo.  We are successfully empowered but not adequately equipped.

As a business leader within my company I try real hard to make sure my team not only has the TOOLS to do their jobs, but they have been properly TRAINED and they know how to USE them.  You don’t give people tools, show them how YOU succeeded with them, and then walk away.  They will only hurt themselves.  To be an effective leader, a motivating coach, a trusted mentor – you MUST be willing to jump back down into the trenches with those who follow you.  You need to not only empower your students but it is your job, your role, your calling…to make sure they are equipped to do the work.  If they are failing, the role of a good coach will be to help them determine WHY they are failing and to instruct them as to the uses of the tools they have been given.  A coach doesn’t walk out at half-time and leave the results up to the players.

pexels-photo-207665EQUIP can be defined as “to supply with necessities such as tools or provisions”.  The definition of EMPOWER is “to invest with power; to supply with an ability; to delegate power and to authorize; to enable or permit”.   A mentor’s role is to equip and empower BUT here’s the catch:

  • You can’t teach talent
  • You can’t teach insight
  • You can’t teach common sense
  • You can’t teach devotion and dedication

If you have experienced a high from a motivational seminar (and likely lost a lot of money buying in to their processes) you are not alone.  Here are the top 4 things you should ALWAYS keep in mind when attending a seminar – or a workshop – or a summit – or whatever they try to name their marketing event.

  1.  They are selling something. They aren’t doing this for the fun of it, although they believe in what they are selling, the bottom line is that they are selling something. Do not be sold!
  2. Take the good and take the bad.  Use your brain and listen carefully, look around you, be a sponge – soak it all in – ignore what you feel is garbage, and take away what you feel will help YOU in your success.
  3. Add people to your sphere of influence
  4. Put your wallet in a secure location

I’ll leave you with this advice from my father.  He told me to never sign and pay until you’ve read the contract.  If anyone pushes you to pay and sign before you have had time to consider all your options and the ramifications of your choices – they are simply trying to sell you something.  Money spent should be an investment so lock up your wallet, don’t whip out a credit card.  If the offer sounds too good to be true – it probably is.

You’re Either In or You’re Out

Gino Barbaro* has a compelling list of reasons real estate investors fail.  When I discovered there was an actual list, I was ready to spend time reading through them and tearing them apart.  How pleasantly surprised I was to find that it was a simple list.  It’s a list that hits home for many real estate investors.

According to Barbaro, the reasons include

  1. Not enough reasons to invest in real estate

  2. No focus

  3. No plan

  4. Lack of Education

  5. Quitting too soon

  6. Not enough capital

  7. Careless due diligence

These reasons don’t have to apply just to real estate investors. Change #1 to “not enough reasons to be in this business” and the rest are universal.

man-jumping-over-impossible-or-possible-over-cliff-on-sunset-background-business-concept-idea_1323-266I am not a real estate investor.  I have the honor of providing executive administrative virtual assistance to many real estate investors around the country.  These 7 points rang so loudly to me and I know it will hit home for many investors.

I have often said if you don’t have time to plan your work and then work that plan then you need to reconsider your career choice. Don’t make your dreams mere hobbies – spending time only when you feel like it or just a few hours every now and then.

Lori Greiner has said, “entrepreneurs are the only people who will work 80 hours a week to avoid working 40 hours a week”.  She’s right on point!

You have a choice.  Get out or get in.  You are either fully in and committed to your success or you’re out.


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